How do you mend a broken heart?

It's a BeeGees' classic …

"How do you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round …
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again."

You can't stop the rain. You can't stop the sun. Thank goodness! If human beings controlled the rain or the sun, we'd drown or burn. It's best to leave those things in the hands of a much wiser higher power.

How do YOU mend a broken heart? Not even the most skilled craftsman, surgeon or seamstress is up for that challenge. Mending a broken heart is an inside job accompanied by an abundance of love and understanding from those who surround us. Yes, we are the only ones who feel what we feel … The tears, anger, guilt, pride, stubbornness and grief, all focused and locked inside us, can impair our vision so much that we do not see what the exhausted or broken heart is doing to our bodies and minds and spirits.

Are you or do you know someone who is a caregiver to a loved one who has Alzheimer's, or has had a stroke, cancer or other catastrophic injury or illness? Have you lost someone you loved with all your heart? Has your heart been broken?

Are you afraid to say, admit, acknowledge or ask for help to "Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again"?

Sometimes we do not know what is best for us when we are bogged down by the tears, anger, guilt, pride, stubbornness and grief. Sometimes we don't see what's happening to us when we look in the mirror. But others do and when they tell us what they see through their eyes of love, we don't want to hear or believe it.

We cannot make this journey of life alone or with only one person. We were created to be here for and to lift each other when we don't realize we need many spheres of companionship and love to fully experience life. There are more genuine open arms to embrace us and shoulders to cry on than you can begin to count.

No one will ever take the place of someone we love, whether they have been affected by a debilitating condition or have passed away. But we can be enriched more than we ever imagined by allowing a circle of friends, family and even strangers to each bring their own little repair kit to help put us back together again.

That's how you mend a broken heart because you can't do it alone. And those we lost and those we care for would certainly want us to live again.